Ensimmäinen vuosi on vaikein

Oletko nähnyt komediaelokuvan Vuoden se kestää (I give it a year, 2013)?  SUOSITTELEN!

 

Jos elokuvaan on uskomista, avioliiton ensimmäinen vuosi ei olekaan pelkkää ruusuilla tanssimista. Tässä kyseisessä tapauksessa kylläkin syyt ovat erilaiset kuin alla olevat…

 

Nykyään monet avioliiton satamaan astelleet parit ovat olleet yhdessä jo vuosia. Toisen kanssa on jo asuttu pitkään, oltu kihloissa, mahdollisesti löytyy lapsiakin. Australialainen tutkija Melissa Weinberg johti tutkimusta, jonka mukaan ensimmäinen aviovuosi sai indeksi-pisteillään alhaisimmat onnellisuusarvot. Tutkimuksen luotettavuutta en lähde kommentoimaan, mutta Weinbergillä on pointti; häiden jälkeen pareja vaivaa usein ”hääkrapula”. Joskus pitkäänkin suunnitellut häät ja häämatka ovat ohitse nopeasti, eikä parisuhde ole todennäköisesti hääpäivästä muuttunut erilaiseksi. Tutkimusten mukaan kuitenkin onnellisuustasot alkavat taas nousta nopeasti ”hääkrapulan” jälkeen.

 

häälahjat

 

Voisivatko vieraat vaikuttaa hääkrapulaan antamillaan lahjoilla? Vauvanvaate-vihjaukset, savikipot ja 4 kpl tehosekoittimia harvoin saavat toivottua vaikutusta aikaiseksi. Monet parit pyytävät nykyään silkkaa rahaa jo alussa mainittujen syiden takia. Joillekin rahat tulevat todella tarpeeseen; ne on suunniteltu käytettäväksi häämatkaan, kodin ostoon tai muuhun. Veikkaan kuitenkin, että osalla ne jäävät makaamaan tilille ja viikkojen ja kuukausien edetessä ne pikkuhiljaa kuluvat normaaliin elämiseen, kunnes huomataan, että häälahjarahoista ei ole montaa senttiä jäljellä. Mitä jos vieraat löisivätkin hynttyyt yhteen ja antaisivat yhdessä häälahjaksi vaikkapa 12 erilaista elämystä: yhden jokaiselle krapulakuukaudelle? Jotkut elämykset voisivat olla edukkaampia ja arkipäiväisempiä – mahdollisuuksia parille pysähtyä hetkeksi ja aidosti viettää aikaa toistensa kanssa vaikka huonepakopelissä tai seikkailupuistossa. Puolen vuoden virstanpylvästä voisi juhlia vaikkapa suklaasaunalla. Kyllä itselle kelpaisi ainakin!

 

Hienoa tässä on se, että vieraiden ei tarvitse pelkästään itse tätä tajuta, vaan hääpari voi muodostaa häälahjalistansa itse esimerkiksi selailemalla elämyksiä.

 

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